Dating a non jew
My partner and I are some weird local version of the Lovings in the Jewish community. On the flip side, there are those in the Jewish community who think my relationship is somehow single handedly responsible for the decline and eventual annihilation of the Jewish people. Imagine having that kind of power (and pressure) when it comes to who you binge Netflix with. And because of that, and the fact that we became a minority by being murdered, exiled, and persecuted for 2,000 years, there’s a fear that intermarriage will water down Jewry till it no longer exists. They convert to a religion that feels more like home. I get why some young Jews really only want to date within the community. Sometimes other Jews are easier to relate to, and you don’t have to teach them things like why Hanukkah is actually not that big of a deal, for crying out loud, stop marketing it like Christmas! And that won’t make my future children any less Jewish.
No matter how many times it happens, I still find myself appalled when a so-called “modern” Jew tells me that I’m hurting my people by dating outside the faith. And for some people who date outside the Jewish community, that does happen: They marry someone non-Jewish, have kids, don’t raise them Jewish in any way, and those kids have kids, and they aren’t Jewish, and before you know it, no one in the family is Jewish or has any idea they were Jewish in the first place. Sometimes they want to have a Jewish household with a Jewish spouse, and celebrate traditions and rituals that they have in common. That’s the key thing here: My kids will be Jewish no matter what.
We don't always realize it, but belief in God is an essential part of our identity.
Ask your son: Do you find the idea of praying to Jesus repulsive?
He has the support of all her friends who are not Jewish. My wife says that if we are not careful we will lose him as a son, and that I should go easy on my remarks and actions. Some ideas: 1) Get them to discuss the topic of Jesus.
It is the most deeply-engrained cultural difference between Jews and non-Jews.
My partner is the closest thing to home I have ever found. — healing the world — isn’t something he says, but something he practices.
One set of grandparents has a Christmas Tree, the other a Chanukah menorah.
His friends were all Jewish as he grew up, and he attended March of the Living.
He is the last Jewish male in our family, since my one and only cousin is a female and I am an only child.
But there’s also Jews who leave the Jewish community for a variety of reasons, none to do with who they date. I will raise them knowing where they come from, who their family is, and what their history means.
Having a non-Jewish partner doesn’t mean not sharing values.