Dating only one person your whole life

You asking that question implies that you think I would just let myself exist in a miserable state, which makes it offensive on a lot of levels.

I know this kind of thing is always said with good intentions, but that doesn't make it any less annoying.

I have worked hard for the things I've wanted to make of myself, and being able to make snap decisions that I knew wouldn't drastically affect another person has been crucial to every little success.

And as archaic as this sounds, I can't date people I don't see myself marrying. I'm just simply not attracted to people I don't see a future with, and right now I'm at a place in my life where I'm not ready to commit to anyone anyway.

I had one serious relationship in college, and broke it off when it started to look like we were going to change our plans to be near each other after graduation.

It seemed stupid to limit ourselves when we were so young.

If I join a club or take up a new hobby, I'm going to do it for me, and only me. This is a sweet thought, so I can't really be mad at anyone who says this, but the thing is, I'm not worried.

It just happens that I'm not dating, and I'm not especially going out of my way to change that.

There is this weird assumption that people who don't date have been "burned" before in relationships, and while that may be true for some people, it isn't true for all of us non-daters. If anything, that's one more reason not to throw myself into the dating pool: I want to make sure whoever I do eventually date, should I decide to, is as nice as people I've dated in the past.

And besides, for those non-daters who have been burned, I'm pretty sure the last thing they want is to share it with everyone who asks.

I'm a proactive person; if there was some major hole in my life, I would fill it.

If I felt lonely, I would make changes to not feel lonely.

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