Online dating too fast

The year is 2015, so our collective attachment to our phones is nothing we should be ashamed of at all.

Whether we hate it or embrace it, technology has changed how we do just about everything, including dating.

I've talked and written about online dating so much that I was once called an "authority on online dating" (seriously).

The most discussed part of online dating is undoubtedly the insane, funny, or creepy messages people get, but there are a lot more aspects of online dating that deserve some recognition, too.

Yet because there will always be a small percentage of dangerous people hiding in the otherwise wholesome mix of online candidates, the first date should be safely preplanned, and public. When people meet in person (not online), and are interested, they normally set a date quickly. It is not how you meet, it is how the relationship is conducted from the meeting point forward. If not, you spend a bunch of time online communicating in an online, unrelistic bubble - then you meet and get that creepy feeling.

The first date should be in a centrally located, popular area, not a deserted hole-in-the-wall off the beaten track. I have prosecuted cases where couples moved directly from the chat room to the bedroom to the criminal courtroom after a sexual assault.

If you feel the relationship is moving at the pace of escargot and that it’s in jeopardy of fizzling out, then you need to take swift action to mix things up and keep things interesting.

Things in life that are slow: snails, molasses, an iceberg, the radioactive beta decay of certain isotopes…and sometimes, relationships.

In physics, motion is defined as a change in position of an object with respect to time.

It takes work to keep things moving in the right direction and at the right speed — from both sides of the fence.

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